Premarital Counseling

Finding your ideal mate wasn’t easy.

And you’ve certainly been through your share of disappointments and heartbreaks.

But finally, you’ve found the one – and you two want to spend the rest of your lives together. This is it! The relationship of your dreams!

You’re in love and are contemplating engagement – it’s time to take it to the next level.

But something is holding you back.

You know you’ve found your soul mate, so why aren’t you sure this is the right move?

You come from divorced parents – so your hope at making marriage work is slim.

You’ve watched your friends getting married and either struggling big time – or not making it. What if the same thing happens to you?

Commitment is a big word.

What if you screw up and sabotage your relationship? What if you fall out of love? What if your mate leaves?

You’ve already had some disagreements and arguments, and sometimes, you have your doubts.

But you know your love is real, and you hope it will only get better after marrying and starting your family.

You WANT to believe you can really be happy ever after.

What are your expectations?

You came into this relationship wanting it to be perfect, but soon, you realize you both have different expectations and ways of communicating and resolving conflicts.

Very persistent and even pushy or too intense at times, your fiancé feels okay being loud and wants to talk everything out. You’re more reserved and prefer to avoid big arguments.

Your partner wants to move to the suburbs and have those kids right away, but you want to put off kids for a while to focus on your career.

Is your love strong enough to overcome?

It is frustrating to attempt to communicate and resolve your differences.

You keep things to yourself, so you haven’t opened up completely about how you see your roles as husband and wife.

You wonder whether you’re doing this right.

Deep down, you’re anxious, insecure, unsure. You know you have to approach your partner about all this, but how? Just thinking about the challenges exhausts you.

Before You Tie the Knot

You realize there are some serious things you need to discuss. Your expectations about finances, sex, children, parenting, jobs, roles in the household – can all be sources of serious conflict. Can you ever agree?

You don’t have to figure it out alone. Let me help.

Through premarital therapy, we can pave your way to healthy, honest communication.

You’ll develop the confidence to state your expectations clearly and the skills to assure that you both feel heard, validated, and understood.

You’ll step into your marriage confidently, KNOWING and being happy with what you are getting into.

Taking Out the Trash of Your Past

Bringing old baggage into your new relationship can potentially ruin a marriage. It weighs you down, exhausts you, and provokes anxiety.

You have even told yourself many times, “When I get married, I won’t be like my parents.” But somehow, those old patterns and fears keep showing up.

You’re afraid your new partner will behave as your ex did. Your pain and heartbreak are so fresh and real – it’s as if they’re happening right now.

You swore to yourself, “I will never drink or treat my spouse the way Dad treated Mom,” but you find yourself slipping in that same path.

You can’t seem to stop doing what you don’t want, and what you do want feels impossible to achieve. You’re caught in a loop in which you hurt the one you love the most.

Focusing on the Blessings of the Future

Through therapy, we can find those places that no longer serve you but are damaging your current relationship.

Your past does NOT determine your present.

But your past relationships can show you what you don’t want to repeat. With premarital counseling, you’ll learn to leave the past in the past – so you can embrace and enjoy kindness, gratitude, and peace in your relationship.

Working together, we’ll break these negative patterns and bring you both to a place of healing and letting go – so you can start your new journey together free, vibrant, and filled with happiness, peace, and joy.

You’ll be ready to say, ‘I do!”

You can really live happily ever after.

Marriage is the biggest decision in your life. Getting ready can grant you the best results ever.

Let me help you sort out your expectations and facilitate a space that brings you together – where you can engage in a deeper, more supportive way that strengthens your bond.

Let me help you design and create the marriage you’ve been longing for – to let go of what you don’t need and embrace your love with confidence, admiration, joy, kindness, and much peace.

You deserve this. Let’s make it happen. (651) 815-2124